1.  Develop a schedule for the holidays, but avoid having children stranded in the middle of chaos.  Instead of spending half of Christmas day with Mom and half with Dad, have your children spend Christmas Eve with Mom, Christmas Day with Dad and alternate every year.

2.  Adhere to the schedule you have agreed to.  Pick up and drop off the children on time.

3.  On holidays that your kids are not with you, consider celebrating the day before or after the holiday.  Make sure to still call your children on the actual holiday.

4.  On holidays that your children are with you, allow them to speak with their other parent.  Assist them in making a phone call or buying a card.

5.  If your child's other parent lives far enough away to make air travel necessary, arrange ahead of time for the airline to provide supervision to your child.

6.  Communicate with the other parent about gift-giving to ensure that your child is not receiving duplicate items from each of you.

7.  Do not be selfish with your gifts.  If your children want to enjoy a gift you gave at the other parent's house, allow them to take it with them; also, allow them to bring gifts from their other parent to your home.

8.  Allow children to spend Mother's Day and Father's Day with the appropriate parent, as well as parent's birthdays.

9.  If it is awkward to attend a celebration that the other parent plans, throw your own rather than demanding that you be allowed to attend.

10.  Help your child buy gifts and cards for the other parent.  This will let your child know that it is alright to love both of you.